Bullies at work can make life very difficult for others, from subordinates to their co-workers and bosses. If this bothers you, the tips below can help you deal with this.
Acknowledge that you are being bullied. It can be difficult to identify the signs of bullying and admit it's happening to you, but a bully will do anything to get you down.
Don't get emotional. Bullies like to manipulate people emotionally. Stay calm and rational.
Don't blame yourself. Recognize that this is not about you; it's about the bully. Don't lose your confidence.
Do your job properly. The bully's behavior will seem more justified if you let work slip, or if you don't show up. Keep doing your best.
Build a support network. Instead of withdrawing, work on building relationships with your colleagues so you can get support.
Write everything down. Keep a journal (on your laptop, smartphone, or writing, but never leave it at work) of everything that happens so that if this problem escalates, you'll have the information you need to get your bearings. Keep all proofs such as emails.
Read about bullying. Learn everything you can about bullying, your company's policies against inappropriate behavior, and the law related to this type of experience. The more you know, the better your chances of success in dealing with this situation.
Get help. If you think you're being bullied, it's time to start talking to others who can help you deal with this situation. Try a mentor, friend, or even a lawyer who specializes in bullying and inappropriate or discriminatory behavior in the workplace. Do this before going to the employer.
Provide guidance. It will help you deal with the stress, especially if the bullying is affecting your physical and mental health. You have to take care of yourself.
Stay healthy. Maintain a healthy and balanced lifestyle outside of work to help you deal with the madness at work. Work out, get a good night's sleep, eat healthy and keep doing fun things.
Wait patiently for the opportunity to confront the bully. Studies have shown that the only people who respect bullies are those who confront them directly. Taking on a bully takes patience and planning at the right time and place. If possible, make sure there are witnesses. Talk to others who also work with him.
Don't expect the bully to change. Real behavioral change is difficult and takes time. You can't help it if the bully doesn't see his problem and doesn't want to work on it. In the worst case scenario, it may be necessary to resign or be prepared for a long hard battle with the bully and your employer.
